作品简介

　　害怕冲突是人之常情，为了避免冲突，我们常常忍气吞声，委屈讨好对方，或把自己封闭起来。但回避冲突不仅换不来和谐的人际关系，还会在自己的内心发动战争，让自己置身于尴尬、愤怒、委屈、恐惧、后悔的狂轰滥炸中。因此，我们需要敢于直面人际交往中的各种冲突。

　　在本书中，作者将心理学、神经生物学和人际动力学等学科编织在一起，通过生活化的案例、亲身经验以及各种行之有效的工具，向读者展示了，如何在不委屈、不内耗的情况下，解决因意见不合、童年投射、安全感缺失、价值观差异以及内心积怨带来的冲突，拥有更亲密、更有意义的关系。

　　杰森·盖迪斯（Jayson Gaddis），知名的人际关系教练，也是人际冲突与关系连结方面的全球领导者。在做了十余年心理治疗师后，因有感于许多人对冲突感到苦不堪言却不知道如何化解，杰森创立了人际关系学院（The Relationship School），并结合科学理论和自己多年的实务经验设计了一套系统且灵活的冲突化解法——“冲突归零法则”，以帮助人们化解内心和人际间的冲突。

Introduction of works

Fear of conflict is human, and in order to avoid conflict, we often swallow our pride, please the other person, or close ourselves off. But avoiding conflict not only does not lead to harmonious interpersonal relationships, it also waging war within oneself, exposing oneself to a barrage of embarrassment, anger, grievance, fear, and regret. Therefore, we need to dare to face all kinds of conflicts in interpersonal communication.

Weaved together from the disciplines of psychology, neurobiology, and interpersonal dynamics, the author uses real-life examples, hands-on experience, and a variety of proven tools to show readers how to resolve conflicts caused by disagreements, childhood projections, lack of security, differences in values, and internal resentments without grievance or internal friction. Have closer, more meaningful relationships.

Jayson Gaddis is a renowned relationship coach and a global leader in interpersonal conflict and connection. After working as a psychotherapist for more than a decade, Jason founded The Relationship School because many people feel the pain of conflict but don't know how to resolve it, and combined scientific theory with his own years of practical experience to design a systematic and flexible conflict resolution method - the "conflict to zero rule". To help people resolve internal and interpersonal conflicts.